Growing Up is Hard tO DO.

Remember when we were little and we wanted nothing more than to grow up and have our own houses and be able to make our own decisions. When it would be up to us what we did with our day. Well that day has finally arrived for Alex and I. We're now the big 2-0 and let me tell you it definitely different than what I thought it would be. Don't get me wrong I love my increasing independence but some time being a grown up is no fun. I think it just hit me that things wont be like they were forever and now I'm starting to grasp that concept. Alex is leaving for New Zealand for a month this summer and spring semester Ill be studying abroad. We wont have our carefree summer anymore and we when I study abroad it will be the first time in more than 10 years that I wont be seeing my best friends for 5 months. Thats a lot to take on and a lot to digest. There are some great things about growing up- making our own rules, creating our own path that make me increasingly excited to get college over with. But there are also some things, that I don't want to change, that are going to be really hard for me to deal with.

But good thing I have amazing friends and family to help me through!

Girls' Code vs. Guys Barely Even Have a Code

So. I've been noticing something lately. More than once recently it has been brought to my attention one way or another that some guys weren't all too concerned with breaking what is a cardinal "rule of feminism" as Karen stated in Mean Girls: never EVER date a friend's ex.

Sounds simple enough right? I don't know about the rest of the world, but my group of friends interprets this as inclusive of several levels of relationships your friend may have had with a guy, or girl for that matter. If they were serious boyfriend/girlfriend, hooked up, made out, dated casually, liked, talked to or had a baby crush on, it counts. That means you're not even allowed to think about that person if you want to consider yourself a good friend. Chicks before...well, you know. People always say that eventually, if it's been like a hundred years since your friend thought about that person or if they give you their blessing, then it's ok. Don't kid yourself. They'll probably never like you as much after that, and if you gradually get less texts from them, don't be surprised. It's not cool.

I wish it wasn't this way, but it is. I don't know why we're so territorial. Even though we've moved on, we still like to have the memories to ourselves. We shouldn't have to share them with the people we trust the most. It's such an invasion. ughgh I just shudder at the thought of Sami making out with my 1st grade crush, Christopher.

Ok, but guys are not the same. A male friend of mine actually told me recently that guys basically only count actual ex-girlfriends. It doesn't matter if his best boy really liked the girl or tried to get her for like 3 years straight and failed. Personally, I know that some guys aren't even really concerned if it's their friend's actual ex. They just think differently than we do! It's scary! They're vicious creatures!

Sami and I have broken the code. Yes. And we survived. Mostly because Sami is incredibly forgiving and open-minded, and my side of it didn't last very long. I would feel eternally indebted to her if it weren't for the fact that she took him back. I would say that she's the one that really deserved him, but I wouldn't wish that *&%%!^#$@&#&@^$!&!*$*^#^@^#%&@$&@&$*@*#^**^ on anybody. He's a bad guy. Ehem.

Anyway, if you're a girl, just don't do it. Don't do it. Unless your friend totally forgot about the guy (like the one who told you that he liked you in like 7th grade and then you convinced yourself to like him and then next week he apparently liked somebody else), you're better safe than sorry.

Speidi Splits = Spencer and Heidi

Soooo who heard that Heidi filed for separation from her current husby Spencer Pratt? Well. She did. And IT'S ABOUT FREAKIN' TIME!! hellooooo.

Who's been watching The Hills this season? I mean, they are officially crazy, and it's so sad because Heidi used to be so normal and cute. Now she's lost it, and we all know whose fault it is.

It's really sad actually how much power guys have over girls sometimes. And the other way around sometimes too I guess. I mean, it's clear that she was brainwashed. Before she was a down-to-earth, cute, family-oriented girl. Now she's a plastic, crystal freak. Ok. I'm sorry. I shouldn't call her that, but we all want the best for her. I'm still praying that she'll come back to earth. I'm on your side, Heidi! And it looks like so far she's taken at least one step in the right direction. Yayyyy!

The girl is crazy

When I found out that Ali from the last season of the bachelor was going to be this season bachelorette I was not excited. First off when are they going to stop using left over from season to be their new love interest and second of all I couldnt stand Ali. I mean she was a whole hell of a lot better than Vienna but the girl was crazy. She was so obsessed with getting Jake to not pick Vienna that she ruin her chance. And this new season of the Bachelorette is not any better.

She must be blind if she thinks that half of the guys she has left are attractive and that any of them have her best interest at heart. One guy is so obviously a player that Im shocked she takes his smooth talking seriously. I really just do not understand what the crazy girl is thinking. Shes bound to get her heart broken. But at least she didn't end up with obviously gay Jake ( I mean come on, dancing with the starts, really?)

Even if I do think Ali is crazy (the bachelorette is my one guilty pleasure that I actually do feel guilty about) Ill still continue to watch it because who can resist this girl giggling as these guys figure out how to stay on the show the longest?

Yay! Rachel Bilson Does Have a Job!

So. It probably goes without saying that Sami and I were and are huge freaks about The OC minus Mischa Barton whom we will never forgive. Rachel Bilson is an entirely different story however. I'm obsessed with her, and most with-it, magazine-reading men and women are keenly familiar with Rachel's brilliant, sweet and refreshing sense of style. She has even written her own column and is now a Fashion Editor for InStyle Magazine.

I mean I know she's a regular on the red carpet and always looking amazing, but I've always kind of wondered if she even still acts. I saw her in Jumper, which was officially on Sami's and my top three list of worst movies ever (along with Elizabethtown and In the Land of Women). Then she wasn't really in anything until her small role in New York, I Love You. So I've really been kind of missing Rachel, but it wasn't until today when I saw her on InStyle.com's "Look of the Day" that I decided to finally imdb this girl. Turns out, she's gonna be starring in a new film titled Waiting for Forever, which is supposed to be released sometime this year. I can hardly wait. Yayy for Rachel!

One Less Flat-Chested Girl: Kate Hudson Edition

I found out last week that Kate Hudson got a boob job. I don't know if all of you more well-endowed girls (*cough* Sami *cough*) know, but Kate Hudson has always been kind of an icon for us flat-chested girls, the President of the Itty Bitty Titty Committee, if you will. Not many celebrities are members actually, so it was kind of a big deal to have such a sexy screen siren as a representative.

Traditionally, the ideal female figure is curvy. The term "womanly" has even become an adjective that refers specifically to a woman who possesses full hips and chest. Even the use of "full" is a little disheartening to a girl like me without very big boobs. It's as if it's implied that I'm less of a woman because my chest doesn't stick out as far as a lot of other girls.

Hollywood totally reaffirms this stereotypical standard of female beauty and sexuality. Look at Maxim's Hot 100. How many of them are flat-chested? Not many if any. But Kate Hudson. She was one foxy A cup. I never thought I'd see the day when she decided to conform. I don't think she realizes how many of us are deeply disappointed about her decision. Well, good riddance. I mean I still like her, but that just means that the rest of the committee needs to be on their A game (get it -- "A" game ahahaa) to prove to the world that there's a lot more to sex appeal than the va-va voom. I mean, have you seen my legs? =] And if you check out those Before pictures of Kate in the red bikini, it's clear that with a booty like that, nobody was paying attention to her boobs anyway.

PS Kate's boobs aren't even that much bigger by the looks of it, but it's the principle of the matter!

The 90's are back!

Alex just informed me last night that white is really in right now because its the beginning of the 90's revival. This made me beyond excited because first off I love white (its one of my two favorite colors) and second because I LOVE THE 90's! I mean I guess it could just be sentimental because we were born in the 90's and all the best t.v shows were on in the 90's but it was also just a really awesome decade. Lets first start with the fashion- 90's fashion has been slowing coming back a while, plaid shirts and the grunge look is nothing new. Look almost anywhere (and especially in San Francisco) and you can probably find someone wearing Doc Martens or similar boots. So grunge has been pretty popular lately but with this revival of the 90's hopefully some of my other favorite styles will come back. Like Clueless! who didn't want Cher's closet of clothes or at least her closet. Cute baby-doll dresses, slips, preppy shirts. Who can not be beyond excited for thigh high stockings? It was cute and it will be even cuter this time around.

Now lets look at the t.v shows. The 90's had, by far, the best T.V to date. To name a few: 90210 (the original), Ally McBeal, Dawson's Creek, Melrose Place, The Real World, Party of Five, South Park. Some of the most important things T.V taught me was from Dawson's Creek so how can I not love the decade that gave it to me?

It was a good time for entertainment and an even better time for fashion. So all I can say is that Im SO excited for the revival of the 90's. Are you?

~Sami

Helloooo! Sami, you forgot Boy Meets World! and Teletubbies! haha ok maybe not Teletubbies (although I do recall Sami begging to be Po or something in like 3rd grade at recess), but Boy Meets World definitely made me the girl I am today. I'm not gonna lie. I'm not really looking forward to the return of 90's fashion the way the 80's has been dominating for the past few years (how unoriginal are we anyway?). Although hopefully it'll at least be slightly more flattering this time around. But that's about the only thing about 90's that I don't love. Music was awesome. Movies...forever in my heart. In fact, here's a list of some of my faves.

My Favorite Movies of the '90s

-American Beauty

-Titanic

-10 Things I Hate About You

-Forrest Gump

-Toy Story

-Good Will Hunting

-Shakespeare in Love

-Beauty and the Beast

-Scream

-She's All That

-Thelma and Louise

-Clueless (duh!)

-The Lion King

-Babe

-Edward Scissorhands

-Aladdin

-Can't Hardly Wait

to name a few

And let's not forget Polly Pockets! I love Polly Pockets!

~Alex

The Aiden in Everybody's Closet

Just got back from the midnight showing up Sex and the City 2. Yes, yes I am one of those (and so is Sami). Anyway, if you’ve been skimming any magazines or watching E! lately, you’ve probably heard that one of Carrie’s exes, Aiden, would be making an appearance of some sort in this movie. I hate spoiling the plot, so I’ll keep it at that, but the mere fact that Aiden’s existence even mattered enough to make it into the movie stirs up something Sami and I have been thinking lately.

We all have an Aiden hidden in our closet. Most, if not all, of us have somebody from our past who has a way of creeping back into our lives…or at least our minds even though they really have no place there. Sami and I each have one. Guys whom we got rid of for extremely valid and unforgivable reasons. Guys we’d be stupid to even think about again. In fact, we’ve moved on. We’ve dated other guys and are happy with the way things are.

And yet, why do we always think we see them in a crowd like a lingering mirage that follows you wherever you go. Why do they haunt us in our dreams like ghosts of lovers past? Why do we seek their attention as a fallback when we need a boost of confidence? It’s like our subconscious chooses to forget all of the reasons we’re not still with them in the first place and hold onto the illusion that their redeeming qualities are actually redeeming when they’re not. Or it could’ve been some kind of outside factor that ruined things, but either way there’s no point to going back there.

It’s pathetic really. And masochistic to let the skeletons in your closet tell you how good you look in that purple dress. I’ve always been the kind of person who believes there’s nothing wrong with staying friends with your exes, but now I think I’m officially a believer in the John Nash philosophy (from A Beautiful Mind): The more you ignore the illusions, the more you start being able to enjoy reality.

Hey, I may be a dreamer, but my reality is getting really good, and I’m not sleeping through it.

~Alex