Girls' Code vs. Guys Barely Even Have a Code

So. I've been noticing something lately. More than once recently it has been brought to my attention one way or another that some guys weren't all too concerned with breaking what is a cardinal "rule of feminism" as Karen stated in Mean Girls: never EVER date a friend's ex.

Sounds simple enough right? I don't know about the rest of the world, but my group of friends interprets this as inclusive of several levels of relationships your friend may have had with a guy, or girl for that matter. If they were serious boyfriend/girlfriend, hooked up, made out, dated casually, liked, talked to or had a baby crush on, it counts. That means you're not even allowed to think about that person if you want to consider yourself a good friend. Chicks before...well, you know. People always say that eventually, if it's been like a hundred years since your friend thought about that person or if they give you their blessing, then it's ok. Don't kid yourself. They'll probably never like you as much after that, and if you gradually get less texts from them, don't be surprised. It's not cool.

I wish it wasn't this way, but it is. I don't know why we're so territorial. Even though we've moved on, we still like to have the memories to ourselves. We shouldn't have to share them with the people we trust the most. It's such an invasion. ughgh I just shudder at the thought of Sami making out with my 1st grade crush, Christopher.

Ok, but guys are not the same. A male friend of mine actually told me recently that guys basically only count actual ex-girlfriends. It doesn't matter if his best boy really liked the girl or tried to get her for like 3 years straight and failed. Personally, I know that some guys aren't even really concerned if it's their friend's actual ex. They just think differently than we do! It's scary! They're vicious creatures!

Sami and I have broken the code. Yes. And we survived. Mostly because Sami is incredibly forgiving and open-minded, and my side of it didn't last very long. I would feel eternally indebted to her if it weren't for the fact that she took him back. I would say that she's the one that really deserved him, but I wouldn't wish that *&%%!^#$@&#&@^$!&!*$*^#^@^#%&@$&@&$*@*#^**^ on anybody. He's a bad guy. Ehem.

Anyway, if you're a girl, just don't do it. Don't do it. Unless your friend totally forgot about the guy (like the one who told you that he liked you in like 7th grade and then you convinced yourself to like him and then next week he apparently liked somebody else), you're better safe than sorry.