Today's topic: Inspired by the song Bathwater by No Doubt and life as we know it.
Ok so we have a huge problem. Well it feels huge, but maybe nobody really cares (except for the good boys that were very disturbed at our first post about the seeming nonexistence of nice guys). Anyway, so I've been thinking about it. Why do good girls always fall for bad boys, and why do good boys always fall for bad girls?
Ok let me start by describing the good boy/girl. This person is not necessarily smart, religious, disciplined, or boring in any way. Good "people" just aren't the ones making moves or taking risks so to speak. It's not that their boring, but I mean, we all know who the bad boys and girls are. If you're stroking girls up their leg on the first date or sending dirty text messages to guys after you just met them, you're probably a "bad boy/girl." If you're making any kind of fast moves on the first couple dates, or if you just skip the date in general, you probably belong to this group as well.
BUT the fact of the matter is that good girls and boys secretly crave the excitement that bad "people" bring to their lives. Let's say a good boy asked a good girl out on a date. It's quite possible that the good boy could go on for a very long time without doing much more than hold the girl's hand. This is great of course because we can all appreciate a boy who has some patience and isn't dating you just to get in your pants. However, deep down the good girl knows that she kinda wants somebody to just wanna get in her pants. She wants to be desired and pursued just like any other girl. Maybe she's good enough of a girl to say no anyway, but sometimes it's really just the thought that counts. And I imagine it's pretty much the same for guys; although I don't think I'd be too bold to say that they probably really do want someone to get in their pants. Guys like to be seduced; deep down they're secretly hoping that your date will turn into something they saw on a cheesy adult film (which is highly unlikely, and I'm fully convinced the porn has tainted many relationships because it gives men unrealistic expectations). So when you put two good people together, it's great and safe and they can get married one day and there's completely nothing wrong with it because it's what we all hope we'll find one day, but meanwhile many of us just want to have some fun.
And there's also the whole thing with the underlying hope that good girls and boys will be able to "change" the bad boys and girls, and it's possible, but don't kid yourself. I definitely believe that people can change, but it will not happen if you're encouraging them, and deep down, you know you want them to stay bad.
What do you guys think?
(BTW. I AM NOT DISCRIMINATING AGAINST EITHER BAD BOYS/GIRLS. In fact, you help make the world go 'round.)
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because they bad guys will break the rules, which can give off adrenaline, which is what all people like. And vice versa with the bad girl situation.
hah! you're so smart! yayy josh!
hey its me again...i have another question for the two of you...
so i just started talking to this guy ...I have known him for a while but not on a personal level...so the more we talk the more i get to know his likes and dislikes. i have come to know that i contain many of the traits that he does not care for...should i tell him about these traits and possibly sacrifice a future relationship???
hey! it's alex! my answer to your question, anonymous, is yes. no matter how cliche it sounds, honesty truly is the best policy. you need to be as honest as possible in the beginning because yeah right now you may like him, but why do relationships not end up working out at a certain point? well i mean there are a couple of reasons obviously, but often it's just because the people realize that their differences are simply too great, or that they clash. if you pretend you're somebody that you're not, you're just gonna get sick of it after awhile. and it will not last. plus, to be completely honest, you don't want to be with someone who doesn't appreciate exactly who you are.
i know it kind of sucks to hear this because you're starting to like this guy and it's fun to like someone and want to be in a relationship. i totally get you! don't worry! i'd be a little dissapointed too if i was hearing this, but sometimes you just have to be smart. and hey, he might be surprised to find out that he still likes you in spite of the fact that you're not exactly his "type." and i mean, it's not like he's gonna be the last boy you like. find one that's really worth the time and effort. if this guy can't handle who you are then he's just not.
hope that helps!
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