Sticky Situation: current crush already has a girlfriend...Ooh no!

So Alex got this from a reader and passed it on to me, because I might have a little more insight into this problem. 

Attention: Cami is defiantly in distress.

"My dilemma is a little twist on that one...lolso there's this guy. i like him a lot, and have liked him for like, 2 years. he has a girlfriend... but he's admitted to me that he likes me, and has liked me for longer than ive liked him, and he feels like he's settling with his girlfriend, but he doesnt want to dump her because he doesnt want to hurt her when she didnt do anything wrong... his exact words were "i really dont see it working out with her long term if i was really honest with myself and there is someone else i would have rather been with..." but he's scared to be alone, and (i'm assuming) he doesnt want to start anything up with me since i'm going away for college and he goes to the university of maryland.what do i say to him?i dont want to tell him to dump her and be with me... although thats kind of what i secretly want, lol...i just dont know what to say to him"

Sami Says: Okay so I was in a very similar situtation not too long ago, so I'll pass along the advice that I have. So what I'm picking up is that you want to tell him to dump this girlfriend of his and go after what he really wants (which I'm assuming is you.) While under normal circumstances I would say go for it! I've always been one to not let anything (or anyone) get in my way, but these aren't normal circumstances, because he is still with his girlfriend. I do think that you should tell him how you feel, if you haven't already, because if he likes you and you like him than he shouldn't still be with this girl, I understand that he is scared to be alone, most people are, but I think that the only way that he's going to break up with this girl is if you tell him how you feel so he knows that he has you. The one thing I would say NOT to do is to tell him to break up with her, he has to make that desicion on his own, because if you tell him to break up with her and it doesn't end of working between you guys, he might end up resenting you and you don't want that AND you don't want to be the "girl who broke them up."

So I know you didn't ask for this but I'm going to throw it in there anyway...

Okay so I don't know exact specifics on the relationship between you guys, so I don't know if something has already happened between, meaning him cheating on his girlfriend, but I'm going to say that its a bad idea to be in that situation. I'll just leave it at that but if anyone else wants to talk about that let us know! But anyways, I don't know this guy but from what I'm hearing, he might not be the most trustworthy guy, and I'm only saying this because clearly he is in to you but he just doesn't have the balls to break up with his current girlfriend, and thats a pretty shitty thing to do. I don't want you to think that I'm trying to preach to you, I'm just a girl who has been in the same exact situation, well... a couple of times, and from my experience it never works out with the guy, right now he's saying that your the one he truly wants but what happens when the next girl comes along, and she's the one for him? It just always seems like a cycle with these guys... but thats not to say that you shouldn't go for him, its obvious that you like him and he likes you, my theory has always been that you have to get a bit messy in life or else how do you know your really living? Just stay a little cautious with him, because i don't like to see fellow damsels getting their heart broken over stupid guys. I guess this has been a kind of round-about way of saying that you should defiantly tell him how you feel and cross your fingers and hope for the best,  don't be afraid to jump into life with a blindfold on!