Dear anonymous,
First off let me say thank you for reading our blog! We like to have loyal readers and hope that we can help you in anyway we can!
Love, SamiandAlex
"I'm 17 years old and i have this fat crush on my soccer coach, he's 21 single and after practice few times a week we have private lessons. I know there's an age difference but i can't get over this crush there are nights i cry myself to sleep because its feelings that i know i cant act upon..should i tell him how i feel or would that just make things awkward? i mean sometimes i feel like he likes me to because there are times our eyes glance at each other for a few moments and he's always smiling when i talk. Please respond? we even text each other its not that flirty usually about soccer but i donno...."
Sami says: Hey anonymous! First you should know that it is completely normal to have feelings for someone that you spend a lot of time with. Now if the only thing that was standing in your way of being with him is the age difference I would say dont let it bother you, plently of relationships work with a large age difference, and he isnt that much older than you, but I'm going to have to say that I think that the age difference isnt what is holding you back. I think that, given the fact that he's your soccer coach, that having any sort of realtionship with him would be wrong. You dont want to strain the realtionship you have right now as teacher and student by telling him how you feel, because I can only see it ending badly for you. You dont want to pour your heart out to him and him blow you off, because that would make being around him extremely akward, and if you do tell him how you feel and he feels the same way, you guys cant really be together because he's your coach. I think that if he has feelings for you than he will come to you, and if he doesn't, maybe you should go look for someone else. I personally think that by telling him that you have feelings for him would be crossing a line, wait it out and see what how he deals with you, if he has feelings for you than he will surely come and talk to you. So maybe for now you should focus on something else, if you need help getting him off your mind let us know and we can give you some pointers. I hope I, in some way, helped you out!
Anybody else have some advice for our anonymous reader? I would love to hear what you guys think of age differences in relationships!
7 comments:
Ahhhh I know EXACTLY what kind of feelings you have. Firstly theres not that much of an age difference. Just a few years. Having a crush on your coach is perfectly normal and okay, since u do spend a lot of time with him, he's become a certain figure in your life, and since he is a guy that gives you attention. What you should do is this: don't tell him your feelings just yet, but express them in the way you talk and act; keep in touch with him through facebook, myspace, phone, whatever; and whatever you do, don't think about this so much, because when you play sports with someone like that, you have mixed feelings and adrenaline rushes that make you feel exited and lively, and if that happened to you around another boy, wouldn't you like him that much too? I hope I could help your dilemma, just remember that the brain is complex, so what you feel deciphers into what you think.
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Omg! Thank you soo much Sami for this post it means a lot and i appreciate your advice it's definitly something to consider, and also i have to thank Josh! I would have to say that your advice gives me hope and the feelings you mentioned could not be more true!!! Wow! I feel like your reading my mind! I guess for now i'll just have to let time take it's course and see where our relationship goes. Thank you sooo soo much you don't know how much this post has comforted me, and uhhh what would i do without sami and alex!!! ohh and can't forget Josh!!! xxx
aww that's so nice! yayy for anonymous!
Glad we could help! defiantly keep us updated on how things work out.
anonymous,
Hey, Im a girl that people say is pretty but end the end restate that's difficult. I know I'm stubborn and difficult but I have reason behind them. I went truly a couple of months this summer trying to find myself. I succeed in truly finding myself and accepting me. So after that long battle with my self you would think I'm more confident then every. I am to extend to no having guys at all lately want to take to me or even say your pretty. I always have to ideal..that one day will be my time. But i do not want that one day to be when im married. I have a trust issue, I'm afraid to truly love someone. But I really want to be in a long distacnt realationship with someone. I dont know how to take this anymore. I know im not ugly but at the same time I appreicate im difficult. I do understand that im going to not be the sweet,nice gurl that guy always fall for. But im a real nice person once i feel that you are different. I had bad relationship problems with guys. so I really dont understand they leave me, or many say i push them away. Please help me see my problem is it me what wrong.
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