The No-Boy Diet & the Sixth Sense

Alex has an idea and a theory.

IDEA: 

I propose the No-Boy/No-Girl Diet to anyone looking for a change.

So I've talked about this before, but I know I'm not the only who can get a little addicted to the idea of being in a relationship. We stay in one for as long as we can muster up the energy and then as soon as it's over we're right back into the process of dating and looking for another one. Everyone knows why we do this. It's because obviously it's nice having somebody there to hold and be close to and intimate with, not to mention it gives us something to think about as a distraction from the mundane realities of daily life that are often a little too boring to think about at all. Relationships give us a little purpose; we like being needed and adored, and we like having somebody to make us feel good. I myself am a slave to this addiction sometimes for no other reason than it's fun and I get bored without one...

...But here's a thought: What would happen if we went on a No-Relationship diet? I mean that almost sounds as bad as a No Carbs diet to me, but would it be one of those things that you dreaded while you were doing it and complained begrudgingly about, but actually delivered "maximum results?" So you ask, "What could I actually accomplish on this here diet you speak of?" Well, I don't know exactly, but I have some ideas. 

-Maybe you could start focusing on being healthier. Use that time that you might spend on the phone with a significant other and go to the gym instead. Or instead of being forced to eat "date" food or eat on someone else's schedule or whatever the other person can cook/has in their house, start eating real, healthy food or eat five small meals a day.

-Get involved. Find a hobby. Get a life! Make yourself an interesting person by exploring new activities or organizations. Experience things that you wouldn't have had time to if you were in a relationship. Make a blog!

-Go on a trip. Do something spontaneous. If you weren't with somebody and didn't have anyone to check in with or plan your life around then you could go on a road trip with friends or a missions trip (I suggest New Orleans). You could also just go out without having to worry about a jealous boyfriend/girlfriend bugging you.

-Get closer to God. Maybe when you were so focused on someone else, you weren't really making God your first priority like he should be. So take time to get things right.

-Or all of the above!

THEORY:

I've developed a theory about guys that I refer to as "The Sixth Sense."

Ok is it just me or do guys seem to have a remarkable ability to sense when a girl is newly single? 

Now I approached a friend (shout out to Tracey!) about this concept, and she quickly prompted the answer to my question was as simple as the phenomenon of Facebook. And let me say, she does have a point. I mean, we thought high school was bad enough when everyone  you knew heard all about your business through the grapevine. Now no matter how old you are, if you have a Facebook as soon as the status of your relationship changes every single person in your world knows about it. It's pretty scary actually. It's convenient for people who want to know your business but who aren't bold enough to ask. It sucks though for you when you don't want your private life broadcasted before you can even make sense of it. Here's a tip for those of you who'd like to keep your private life private: Keep your status blank so there's never any announcements about you changing it.

Yet still, I'm not fully convinced that Facebook is the only reason. I'm sure many of you girls can relate to me when  I've been in a situation where I just broke up with someone and within 24 hours all of the sudden guys that I haven't talked to in forever or hardly at all want to be friends OR even creepier situations where I'm in a relationship that's on the verge of crashing and guys come out of nowhere way before I've changed my Facebook status. It's definitely a little eerie. 

So here's what I think it is: I think guys have this animal instinct that allows them to sense when a woman is available. Unfortunately, us girls usually aren't in the right frame of mine to jump into the arms of another man minutes after leaving the last one, and of course after you've been single for awhile it seems like all of the guys who wanted you before disappeared. It's like you're a batch of chocolate chip cookies and they can smell you baking in the oven and they're standing there waiting for that timer to ring so they can "get you while you're still hot." I don't know if it's pheromones or what, but they definitely know. 

So that's what I have to say. Tell me what you think, ESPECIALLY GUYS!!