STEP #1: GETTING A GIRL TO NOTICE YOU.
Whether there's a specific girl whose attention you're looking for or just females in general, here are a few tips:
-Be yourself: You don't have to try to put on clothes you'd never wear or look up funny jokes to make us laugh. Just eat a big breakfast every morning, get a good night's sleep, shower, and look your personal best. It does help, however, to make an effort, which is why I mentioned the showering thing. Smell good. Brush your teeth. Make sure your hair isn't greasy. Even seriously consider ironing your shirt. That saves you from girls being tempted to think you're gross.
-Eye contact and smile: These two things, along with being comfortable in your own shoes, are some of the easiest ways to show confidence, which girls are attracted to just as much as guys are. The eye contact not only shows confidence, but it also tells the girl that you notice them and out of every other girl in the room you chose her eyes to look into. I also learned in AP Psych last year that it's a guaranteed way to make a connection with somebody because "eyes are windows to the soul" or whatever. That look alone might give her chills. Then you add in the smile and she'll be thinking about you the whole rest of the day. Most of the time when I see somebody they'll kinda look my way and wave or smile or whatever, but every once in awhile there will be a guy that looks at me like he's been waiting his whole life to see me. It's the combination of the eye contact and the smile. It kills me. Look at her like she's the most beautiful thing you've ever seen, whether it's true or not, and she'll believe it and remember you as the one that made her feel that way.
STEP #2: TALKING TO A GIRL
Some of you might choose to pass go on this step and get straight to the asking out, but I
suggest that you give this a chance. I say this because there's a lot to be said for a guy that is
actually interested in getting to know a girl as opposed to just looking at her and thinking she'd
be worthwhile for a date.
-Ask questions: about her! So so easy, but seriously there are enough guys that think they're
every girls dream and would like nothing less than to be worshipped. Girls typically do a lot of
thinking, and we're just waiting for an opportunity to share it with somebody. Girls want to
be with a guy that wants to hear their opinion on something important and will listen to them
vent when they've had a bad day. Going on and on about yourself or even just making constant
small talk about homework or sports or something that involves no insight into her intellect
or sense of humor will not suffice.
-Give her a genuine compliment: Note: yes she may have a nice booty or a great rack, and
yeah, that might be genuine, but that just tells her that you're only looking at the things that
every other sleazy guy looks at. Your goal is to stand out. It's nice to say that she looks pretty
or something, but creativity goes a long way. You could say that any girl any day, and if she is
pretty then she's probably heard it a million times, but it's better to be specific. Try to notice
the small things. Say, "hey those are some sick shoes" (don't say cute because you also don't
want to get into the gay best friend box) or "I thought the essay you read in class yesterday was
brilliant!" or something that applies only to her and shows that you notice the things that
she's probably being dying for somebody to notice. It goes a long way. I still remember
compliments that I got years ago because they stood out from all the others. And just so you
it's not wrong to tell a girl she's beautiful if you just can't help but say it because that'll make
her feel good too, but if you're going to do it tell her what it is that makes her look that way.
-Humor her: Basically, try to indulge her a little by laughing at her jokes and engaging in her
conversation. You know how good it feels when it seems like someone's genuinely entertained
by you. I mean, if she's just dull as dry wall then she's not going to change and I suggest moving
on to someone else because she'll be able to tell if you think she's boring, and it'll only be a
waste of time for both of you.
STEP #3: ASKING HER OUT
Like I mentioned before, it helps a lot to try to get to know a girl a little before you ask her
out. Girls get hit on all the time by random guys, so it helps a lot if she doesn't feel like you're
just another random guy. Not to say it's impossible to get a girl's number if you just see her out
somewhere. I feel like this is more appropriate as you get older actually, but my point is that a
girl will be a lot more likely to want to go out on a date with you if she feels more comfortable.
We live in a scary world. You have to make her fairly sure that you're not just another creep or
rapist or psychopathic, sex-crazed murderer so put yourself on her level.
-Come up with a good reason to approach her: Some may disagree, but my personal
advice is not to start out with a pick-up line or even a compliment. If you do that then she may
put her guard up immediately and never give you a chance to make a successful pass. Like I said,
no pick-up line, but try something like "Hey, do you happen to know where the movie theater
is?" or "I just moved here. Do you have any suggestions for where I could go this weekend?"
Then go from there. Start a conversation.
-Keep it casual: When you're ready to actually make your move, don't go too extreme. She'll
be more willing to say yes if you propose something that doesn't involve her taking a huge risk.
If you want to ask for her number or screen name or something, don't just say, "So can I have
your number?" Figure out a logical reason for needing it. Say, "Hey, can I get your cell number
in case I need to ask you for help on my chemistry homework?" or "If you give me your screen
name I can hit you up when I hear about some good parties." Or offer her your information for
the same reason. And if you want to take her somewhere, start with something as casual as
possible like lunch on campus or studying or meeting up at a party or something. It might be
romantic to say meet me at the Empire State Building at 7:oo Saturday night, but a girl would
be less likely to do this with a complete stranger so wait after a couple dates to go big.
To Be Continued...
Sorry about the formatting guys! Like I've said before, sometimes this thing has a mind of it's own!
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