(*SO I know we were supposed to start posting every day, but I mean we're busy people so yeah that might not work. Hey we tried though! And now you know when you read something, it'll actually be about something worth reading!)
So Sami and I were talking about it today, and we're starting to miss the close group of friends that we had in high school. I mean obviously when you go away to school you miss your family, friends, your TV with 900 channels, home-cooked meals, and probably your bed, but we're not talking about just being homesick.
When you go to college, it's not hard to make friends because you're surrounded by peers that are all trying to make friends of their own. That's not the hard part. The difficult part is that unlike your friends from high school that have probably known you for a really long time (Sami, Kristen, Ashley, and I have known each other since at least 3rd grade), these new friends know nothing about you. So even once you get past the small talk, they still don't know about all the relationships you've been in and what's so great about your boyfriend; they don't know why you have certain views or the reasons for certain things you do or don't do; they missed out on a whole lifetime, and while that doesn't mean that they can't be good friends in the future, explaining who you are to people constantly gets old after awhile.
We miss having people to go to around whom we can be ourselves and who understand our weird senses of humor and sarcasm and who don't get annoyed when you say something dumb and who don't judge you when they disagree with you. We never had drama. We never got in fights. We never had to try to get each other to like us.
I have people I can talk to about stuff here, but it takes time to establish a relationship where you feel like you can really say anything to someone. Those relationships have to be built and earned. Sami and I were spoiled by having such good friends. I'm sure eventually we'll have those kinds of friendships at school, but for now, it seems hard for anyone to fill the shoes of our best friends.
The good part is that when we go home, it feels like we never left. Everything just goes back to normal.
5 comments:
alex I seriously started crying when I read that. i love you and miss you!
awww don't say that! this weekend's gonna be fun! ohmg and i seriously spent like an hour last night trying to gather all these pictures of the four of us and make a slideshow and it didn't work. i was devastated.
awww i love my bitches!! girls night friday and saturday? i think soo!
i can't friday cuz i have to see a play for school then work eh, but saturday for sure!
Great blog!!
I think that you guys are right. In colLege, we wilL hopefulLy make friends that we wilL have for life, but there's nothing like the bond that you share with your best friend from home and/or high schoOl.
I think that it's cool how you and you're friends are stilL relatively local to each other. My problem is that maintaining this bond with my best friends who go to schoOl in Nor Cal and in Arizona is difFicult. Although it's easy for us to talk about things that are going on in our own lives, and things from the past that we shared together, no matTer how close we are, the physical distance is stilL felt.
But they're stilL my best friends forever and always, and that won't change. Like you guys, filLing their shoes with others wilL never hapPen, but finding people who i wilL let in to my life in ways that i let them in is difFicult.
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