Guys will be guys...

Attention: Sami and Alex are annoyed.

Alex: So I was watching The Hills the other day, and something hit me. [SPOILER ALERT] LC was out of town for work, and while she was gone Stephanie went to Audrina and asked her if she thought it would be ok if she went out on a date with Doug. For those of you who don't know, Doug and Lauren went to prom together in high school (no it was not on Laguna Beach, idk why), and they had recently dated, and if that weren't enough, Lauren refers to him by "her Doug."

     Now I don't think I need to go over this because it's a pretty well-accepted concept, but there is this rule that girls have, and it is one that is never to be broken. It is a taboo that is almost an automatic friendship deal-breaker. This rule is that, as a friend, you can never date, hook-up with, or even like someone that your friend has history with. Over time, with permission and absolute certainty that your friend has completely moved on from this person, it might eventually be ok to pursue something if you absolutely must...but in this case it was not.                 Stephanie went out on a date with Doug TWICE while Lauren was gone, and then tried to act like she didn't really do anything and it was all Doug's fault. Here's my point: One of LC's best friends, Brody, had already warned her that Stephanie was untrustworthy, and when Brody confronted Lauren with the truth about She-Pratt and Doug, he blamed it all on Stephanie. When Lauren suggested that Doug should take some of the blame as well, Brody merely responded that, "Guys will be guys."

WHAT?! HOW COME GUYS CAN BE GUYS AND GIRLS ALWAYS TAKE THE HEAT FOR DOING THE SAME THINGS?? I mean obviously in this situation, Stephanie was in the wrong, but so was Doug.

Sami: So when Alex came to me and was saying how she thought this would be a good topic to discuss I was ALL for it, because it just so happened that I had had a similar situation happen to me, not the whole dating a friends guy (I've been there too and trust me its not worth it at all) this was a different situation in which the commonly used phrase "boys will be boys" was seriously overused and it realllly struck a nerve with me. So heres the rundown:  a few weekends ago I did something that wasn't very smart on my part, and I admit that it was selfish and really stupid act but I fessed up and told someone that I really care about what happened and even went as far as to express remorse for my actions, and by the way I did feel bad but not entirely that bad,  so this person that I care about freaked out and I mean seriously freaked out. He told me I was naive and dumb, and wasn't thinking, and I agreed, I thought that what I did wasn't the smartest thing I could have done, but at least  acknowleged that what I did was wrong on my part. but I held my tongue, even though he had done what I did before and even to some degrees did something that was far worst. I tried to let go of the fact that he was setting me to unfair standards because I knew that he really only wanted me to be safe. So he calls me a few days later, to tell me that he just did something that was 100% worst than what I did, so naturally I expect him to express regret and remorse for his actions, but does he? OF COURSE NOT! so obviously I give him the same speech he gave me, you were dumb, how could you be so stupid, and then he proceeds to tell me that I have no reason to be upset and that he can take care of himself and... wait for this one... he can do it because HES A GUY... I'm not even kidding, he actually said that, so clearly I hung up on him and proceeded to dodge his calls for the next few hours. so please explain to my why guys feel the need to act very stupidly and then use to the excuse that they are guys so they have an excuse, I mean come on? do you seriously believe that just because you happen to have different sexual organs that your actually aloud to use that as an excuse for acting like an idiot. I really am curious though, do guys actually believe that they have an excuse to act insanely dumb and not have to feel any remorse for it?

Alex again: And on that note! Why is it that guys get to use this same excuse when it comes to physical activity?? I mean I don't know how many times I've heard, "I can't help it. I'm a guy." Guys claim that they have less self-control so it's therefore our responsibility as girls to draw the lines and stop when things go to far, AS IF WE WANT TO. 

I think it's all a cop out. 

Anyway somebody help us out here, especially if you're a guy, but if you're a girl who's been in this situation or has some perspective let us know too.