Someone who commented on our last post asked us the question, "What's the difference between love and lust?" It's a great question, and one that I'm struggling to answer.
According to dictionary.com, "love" can be defined as "a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person." "Lust" is comparatively defined as an "intense sexual desire or appetite."
Alex's Response: Ok, I don't know much about lust because typically whenever I lust it's with someone I love or it's over someone I'm trying to get my mind on to get my mind off the one I love. So Sami might be able to tell you more about lust, but meanwhile I'll tell you how to tell if you're in love.
You know you're in love when...
-they're the last thing you think of before you go to sleep.
-whenever you think of something to do, you immediately think of doing it with them.
-whenver your phone rings/you get a message or comment on facebook/you get a text, you're praying it will be that person.
-you start to worry after they don't answer your call and you're shudder at the thought of something bad happening to them.
-you could probably be with them nonstop for a week and never get sick of them.
-you get hot chills and break into a sweat every time you see their name on your caller id.
-you would give up watching your favorite tv show to be with them or help them with a problem.
-you find yourself feeling oddly complete and content whenever you're around them.
-the highlight of your day has anything to do with them.
-a kiss stops time and makes you feel like everything around you is lost in a blur.
-a kiss makes you lose your breath and weak in the knees. (yeah that actually happens)
All that may sound cliche, but that's only because it's a magical experience that people have never tried to stop explaining. Let's see what Sami thinks...
Sami's response: okay so I think that I can tell you a little about lust, but not so much about love. So I would trust Alex about the love stuff because I dont think I've been in love but I do think she has. So I think that lust can come in so many different forms thats its hard to explain. A lot of people will say that lust is purely physical but I dont think that at all, I totally think that lust can be physical, meaning you purely want someone in the physical sense but I also believe that lust can be just wanting to be with someone or wanting something from someone, maybe you just want to talk to that person but its based off of what YOU want, I think that love is all about compromise and that lust is selfish, I'm definatly not saying that lust is a bad thing I think it's completely normal and neccessary but I think that lust is what you want and love is taking into account the person that your in love with. So I do think that there is a big difference between love and lust and when your in the middle of either you might not be able to see the difference but dont stress everything will resolve itself in the end!
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okay I have a couple things to say and sorry if I'm negative because alex told me it was okay. as for the love lust thing you guys hit it straight on I'm a guy I lust ALOT but I have been in love I know because it was different from anyother feeling I had ever felt it was new different intense and just amazing everything i thought of was about her and all that alex said was the nail on the head so i appluad you on that and lust ya definatly just its almost common sense to me like you just feel like ya theyre cool they are HAWTTTT and its weird because if you haven't been inlove you think you are but when you expierience love its all about the other person its just completly different and like woah and ya so straight on guys but um my negative one would be about your posts on nice guys versus bad guys princes in shining armor.....well its like this yes theres a couple out there very few anymore but they are out there its a fact I can say im a nice guy or i think i am i mean i dont want to brag but ya like anygirl i believe theyre gods gift to man i try to treat everywoman with respect and dignity especially the ones i like my ex asked me about my exs andwe ended up in an argument because i said if any of my exs was in trouble id take them in and take care of them let them sleep in my house on the couch er even the top bunk bed (i have this awesome bunk bed tops a bed bottom is a futon turns into a bed or a couch dorky lil brother status i know) but ya like i try to treat all women as friends that id take care of even now my ex she broke my heart pretty recently even and she told me she didnt love mewhich hurts because i was sure she was the one and still it may seem stupid im chasing her to be my friend i know it wont work between us but im trying to stay her friend because shes sweetand fun she has a boyfriend whose a womanizer and has a million stds and everyone says she got what she deserves but i stop them i hit them dont they dare talk about her like that ya it sucks she left me she shouldnt get stds though thats not cool gah...all im sayimng is there are sweet guys out there dont give up hope but also dont complain so much when you cant find one if you or someone you know just hurt one because im trying hard to not be mad at her and i know other guyys that became badguys like theyre not born theyre made there are perfect guys but you gotta be a perfect girl too i admit im a lil shallow when it comes to looks but i can see potential in people and will help you to be a better you not just for my eyes for your own too but nice guys need to be taken care of just as much as you do maybe im in a dreamworld right now but i think the dating game should be equal guys go after girls but girl should go after guys too you need to be taken care of but guys do too we need to be told were doin a good job n youre happy with us n when somethings wrong tell us so we can fix it when were havein a bad day (maybe i admit maybe this is just me)when were sick when were just tired from work we need to be babied taken care of nutured you know i could make a big list but alotta the time bad guys wernt taken care of er were mistreatedso they act back and misuse and mistreat i know ive done it ive fallen from the path of being nice to everygirl i have because i was hurt and i thought all women were demonseed temptress users so all im saying is it should be equasl treatas you want to be treated =/ i think im going to start my own blog here alex sounds fun but ya sorry for the spelling like 10 lines in i was like gah thinking bout jean sorry
Derek you're brilliant and beautiful. I hope not being treated right won't turn me into a bad girl like you said. All I want to do is be loved and loved in return. A lot of us are willing to do a lot for the one we love, but we just don't get it back.
try your hardest not to but if you do know ill be your friend and always try to keep you on track being good for your future guy
ok...i have another question
u know how they say if you cant get someone of your mind maybe they are supposed to be ther?
well what if you dont want them there because it hurts just to think abou them. and this could be either i relationship tht just ended or one tht has never begun
in my case it has never begun and i dont think it ever will and everytime i think about him it hurts and i dont know wat to do
i know he will never think of me the way i think of him but i cant STOP thinking of him and its to much pain for me to bare
That is a really really great question, one I would love to have answered myself. Thank you anonymous! You have just inspired a new post!
why am I not one of the people that inspires you/makes you happy? HELLO! I should be like numero uno, or at least after kristen and ashley
Enjoyed reading it... Read more on this issue: http://matrimonyxpress.bharatmatrimony.com/2008/07/singles/are-you-in-love-or-is-it-lust/
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