It's no news that it's every girl's dream to find her Prince Charming. In my opinion, Prince Charming is not so hard to find. In fact, any guy in pursuit of a girl plays the Prince Charming bit. Charm, whether genuine or fake, is merely a role that guys play to win the hearts of their desired lady. Any guy can do it, and many girls fall for it at one point or another. There's no lack of charming guys, but what I'm looking for is a genuine nice guy. Even if I meet a nice guy, I'm having a hard time believing that's not just an act as well.
I remember a time when there were nice guys and bad boys.
- Bad boys were the ones you fell for even though your friends warned you not to because they knew exactly what to say to make your heart melt and exactly how to efficiently unhook your bra.
- Nice guys were always friends first and were willing to wait as long as it took to win your affection.
- Bad boys would play all these games to make sure they had all of the power in the relationship.
- Nice guys listened to what you have to say and weren't afraid to show their friends how much they liked you.
- Bad boys were the ones that you found out actually had another girlfriend or broke up with you because you wouldn't go as far as they wanted you to.
- Nice guys were loyal, called you every night and strutted you around everywhere you went like he knew you were the prettiest girl there.
Now the line is way too blurry. Guys that I thought were nice cheat on their girlfriends...but have good reasons. They also do things that you know are out of their character just because their friends are. After awhile, they stop appreciating you as much as they used to, or they cheat on you with their ex-girlfriend even though they claim that they love you.
In movies after the guy screws up he always makes some grand gesture to redeem himself, or he saves the girl just when she needs it. Examples:
- The Last Kiss -Zach Braff's character sleeps outside his wife's porch until she forgives him.
- Say Anything - John Cusack stands outside his lover's house holding a boombox over his head blasting their favorite song.
- The Notebook - After Noah realizes he was stupid for breaking up with Allie he writes her a letter every day for a year and builds the house of her dreams.
When was the last time that ever happened to you? Where's our knight in shining armor? Do nice guys actually exist?
9 comments:
nice guys exist. asking if there are nice guys in the world is like asking if there is any good in the world. its all based on perspective. alot of bad boys are nice every once in a while. and many women couldn't stand guys who "were willing to wait as long as it took to win your affection" or "called you every night and strutted you around everywhere you went like he knew you were the prettiest girl there". its an impossible question with a lot of typical answers. answers like, you have to reach the highest to pick the good apples off the tree. its all about what you want. and if you want a guy whos loyal, patient, obssessive, proud of you, and all of the above on your list, I would dare say you'd get sick of him after about 3 months or three minutes. because no one knows what they really want. if we did, we would all be happy. just sit back, relax, and a genuine nice guy, not contained by your qualifications, will show up on your front door.
In response to the last comment:
I would agree with our last comment to the degree that I believe that nice guys and bad boys can no longer be put in a box. My problem is that I'm having a hard time believing that the guy I once dreamt of actually exists. I'm thinking that no matter how good they seem, every guy will disappoint you. Maybe the difference is if they're willing to redeem themselves when they make mistakes. That's all I want.
I know there's a lot of really lame guys out there. I also know that there are a lot of nice guys that disappoint. One thing you have to realize is that nobody is perfect. But the thing that makes the difference is the guy who messes up, but recognizes it, apologizes sincerely, and works on making things right. I know for a fact that those guys exist because I know them personally. I think right now you're worried they don't exist because you don't know any. Don't worry, it's an exercise in patience. You girls are way to awesome not to have the right guy come along. My advice is to wait for him. Cause he'll come. Girls aren't the only ones looking for quality people of the other sex you know. It will work out. I promise.
Thanks Andy! Your comment was kind of like our fairy godmother when we were crying on the bench thinking there's no use in believing anymore because our evil stepmother is just too evil.
Hahaha I guess I can resemble a fairy godmother sometimes. That makes perfect sense. Yup.
I know there are nice guys but what girl wats a nice guy i know girls get tired of them i believe that girls want a nice guy but somewhat a bad boy side to them but the nice guys that have bad side u would never guess they were bad and they r to scared or to worried to tell girls there bad side thinking thatll change that girls mind. And from being a nice guy most of the girls i tried to get with want a bad boy and then complain about where r the nice guys in the world. Well theyre right infront of you u just have to notice them better. I hope this helps alittle hahaha
yeah i guess that's true. there's usually more than the eye can see and it does either way. girls obviously aren't trying to get with a bad boy that's gonna screw them over. we think they're bad, but we never think they're that bad. we think they're just playing the bad boy part but they're really gonna love you and treat you like a princess, and then we're surprised when they're really bad. BUT that's the perfect time for the good guys to cut in, save the day, and ultimately win our affection. I'm fighting for the good guys. Go team!
I agree with Andy, and hes a perfect example of that, hes a nice guy who isnt perfect but still knows when he does wrong and works hard for forgivness. He'd stand outside a girls window with a guitar anyday
i think the line between nice guys and jerky guys is definitlly to blurry. its like the one boy you thought would always be there for you and love you is the one that always hurts you the most, and its because when we trully love someone we give them all the power hoping that they will respect you and love you forever, but somehow they always mess up and break your heart! maybe we just expect to much from them. but really, guys who cheat and make stupid dumb choices when your broken up, or in a fight are not to be trusted. but one thing ive learned is that when stupid guys break your heart and then go out and just hookup with random girls, it just shows how much there hurting and trying to forget about you. guys can be jerks, and at times its best to just let them go. but the ones that know what they did and are willing to do anything for your forgiveness and to get you back are the keepers:)
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